As anyone that has read this blog for any period of time can attest, I am an avid NPR listener. I pledge and everything. So this item in The Revealer, written by Linda Anderson who works for the International Bible Society and volunteers for her local NPR station, caught my eye.
The phone interview for volunteering at KRCC was going really well, when the station manager, Mario, asked: “And where am I calling you?”
“IBS,” I answered, giving him the acronymic (and therefore less-obvious) name of my nonprofit Christian employer.
“Huh,” he mused aloud, “the only IBS I know is the International Bible Society.”
“Uh, yeah. That’s where I work.”
“Do you know why I don’t believe in God?” he asked, hardly pausing.
His story about why he didn’t believe in God was pretty familiar: bad church, bad churchgoers, bad church history.
I confessed that I, too, had a hard time with Christian hypocrisy (who doesn’t?) and the church’s tendency to ignore social justice issues. I submitted that following Christ unfortunately comes at the expense of associating myself with two thousand years of human failures in his name.
Mario was curious to see if his community could sustain a strange element like me. “We’re an inclusive environment, a diverse community.” If I was interested in being part of that community, I was welcome. “But you know who won’t like this?” he asked rhetorically, “The cool people. I can’t wait.” Click.
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I haven’t introduced myself to the KRCC staff as Lisa the Christian. And I thought that was okay until my second outing. Adam, another DJ, and I were standing in the street, leaning against my car after his shift. It was dark and I watched his confusion evolve in the strobe light of the passing cars.
A: So, where do you work?
L: A Christian non-profit.
A: —- (shocked)
L: Uh, I am a Christian.
A: (in a slightly too loud, relieved tone) Oh, you’re shitting me.
L: No, really. I’m a Christian.
(awkward pause)
A: Are you very Christian?
L: What do you mean?
A: Are you a FUNDAMENTALIST?
L: What do you mean by “fundamentalist?”
A: Do you hate homosexuals?
L: Adam, you know I don’t hate homosexuals. Half of the people we work with are homosexual.
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Adam mumbled something about his grandmother and dinner and excused himself. So we didn’t have a chance to discuss the why or how of my belief or the way words failed us when their sub-culturally charged definitions broke down.
…I was left wondering which Christian prototype — the televangelist, the culturally insensitive spinster missionary — Adam had ascribed to me. He did have our previous relationship to look back to, but judging by his reaction to my coming out, he thought that his earlier impressions (ostensibly of my being interesting or thoughtful) and my profession of faith to be incompatible.
Adam could have dismissed me immediately if I had been Christian in a way that he recognized. He might not have wasted his time befriending me. He already knew that he didn’t like those people. But when the label came too late in our friendship, Adam felt deceived by me in some way.
This is the cost we pay for allowing Christianity to be defined by the Christian right. How many thousands, millions even, of unchurched in the US are repulsed by the image of the Christian right, and are therefore beyond the reach of the Gospel? How many ex-Christians have fled the church because of the Christian right, not knowing that there is another Christianity governed by grace instead of law?